How does a musician improve?  He
practices scales over and over and over. 
Yes, the talent may be innate, but the practice perfects the skill.  As you awaken to who you are, you will want
nothing more than to be the presence of love, but years of acting only as a
human vs. a spirit-being will have habituated certain habits.  How to overcome this?  Practice, practice, practice.  You are aspiring to a new octave.  This ascension does not come without a bit of
effort on your part.  Practice spreading
love, being love, and seeing love unconditionally and soon you will be a
virtuoso.