As you learn your life lessons, doors open.  As you the human, face your so-called demons—those sides or parts of you that you steadfastly refuse to change or notice, you come more into balance.  Coherence means a unified whole.  How can you come into coherence with coherent light, which is your Source, if you, yourself, are incoherent?  Ah, do you see the derivation of that word “incoherent”?  You think of it as one who babbles away and cannot be understood.  We understand the incoherent human quite well.  He is allowing ego to speak and think for him.  As you clear out the aspects of the story that are not in alignment with Truth, there is less and less room for ego’s babbling, and the more you align with Truth.  As you do so, the door to a closer connection with those in spirit opens ever wider.  For some, the door never opens whilst they play out a particular story.  For others, it opens wide.  For some, this is part of a plan.  For others, it is through lack of optimum choices.  Since you may never find out which is your story, why not aim high and fling open the door?