A chameleon.  Is that not what so many humans are?  You change your costume and your personality depending upon the situation.  Ah yes, we hear you deny this, but think of your family holidays.  Do you not revert to old roles?  This is the beauty of the dance, the play of consciousness.  You get to choose what role you play.  How is the one you have chosen working for you?  Is it allowing you to bring more love into the world?  More peace?  If there is too much strife for your tastes, then actually this is allowing you your greatest opportunity ever to bring more love into your world.  Think about that for a while.  All is in perfect order, as long as you do not think you need to change everyone else.