You cannot love another truly until you truly love yourself.  Until then, you are more in a needy state, mistaking what you give out as love, when in fact it is ego’s ploy to get what you think you do not already have.  You come from Love.  Love is your true Source.  Beauty, nature, beautiful music, kindness awaken this within you.  Serving others awakens this realization within you.  So, give.  Reach out.  Touch another with kindness.  Feel that.  It has always been within.  Now you will no longer allow yourself to be used, abused by those who have not realized they, too, are Love.  Be that which you seek and you need seek no longer.