Can you be grateful for the times that people say things about you that hurt?  Why would you want such a situation?  No human being would want to hear unkind things about themselves, but is this not the greatest opportunity to truly practice walking the talk?  If you truly know that you are a soul playing a human role, then unkind words are part of the script, for the soul speaks only the language of love.  Those who do not realize they are playing a role may say their words with intention and meaning.  You do not have to receive them as truth.  Do not become a whipping post.  This is not your role.  Your role is to shine your light as brightly as possible.  Make decisions as to how to deal with hurtful words from the higher place.  If you have not yet learned how to access that higher place and hurtful words truly hurt, then this is a spiritual opportunity for growth.  You always have choices.  Always.  The greatest choice is whether to remain stuck in your human role or to shift higher as needed.  You are so very loved.