You want to help others? 
Help yourself first.  Pay
attention to any time you are less than loving. 
Pay attention to any time you feel emotional pain or discomfort, and
then healer, heal thyself.  You are all
the same on the inside.  Different
programming results in different output at times, but the Operating System is
the same.  Perhaps you need to update
yours and make sure it is in line with your latest version of Reality.  Do not try to change others.  Serve others by being the presence of Love,
and the best way to do that is making sure you are the clearest possible
vessel.