It feels good to say yes to others. They respond with a smile at you. You fill their needs and thus feel needed. But what of your needs? When you continuously fill the needs of others and deny the self, you deplete the self. Energy flows in both directions. Be aware of when it is out of balance. Realize that you need not always say yes. Others will still love you. You are far more able to give of the self—to give love—when you are in balance.
No is not always a negative word. There are gentle ways of saying no—of saying no with love. In doing so, you are enabling the self to recharge. You are saying, “I know that I am loved no matter what I say to this other. They are responsible for their own growth. I can say yes or no to their needs, yet still send them my love, and thus be of service.”
What is it your flight attendants tell you to do in the case of the deployment of your oxygen mask? If there is one in need seated beside you, you cannot help them unless you help yourself first. Seek balance so that you remain always filled with love.