If you insist on pointing out the bad and the good, of immersing yourself in the duality instead of transcending it, then at the very least you might take an observer’s neutral viewpoint long enough to notice the so-called good that comes from the so-called bad.  “Everything happens for a reason,” you say.  Could that reason simply be that evolution is ongoing?  Let life play out as it does with its ups and downs.  Evolution happens when you see all of it for what it is:  an opportunity to rise above the duality and answer with unchanging love … to take a work of art and add something even more beautiful.  You are already in the masterpiece, so there is beauty inherent in your world, now simply remember:  You are so very loved.