You wish to change another.  Why?  Do their words or actions make you uncomfortable?  Only your thoughts about their words or actions make you uncomfortable.  Focus not on changing another but on seeing the situation from the higher perspective of the soul.  As you realize that all are here to learn to love unconditionally, then you see those you wish to change as opportunities to fulfill your purpose.  You are not here to change anything, but to embody Love.  Why is this so challenging?  It is only challenging when your focus remains on the role and not the soul.  Now do you remember?  You are so very loved.