You are kidding your self if you think this life is all there is.  You are kidding your smaller self if you think that loved ones who have passed no longer exist.  You are kidding a limited version of the Self if you think and do not feel with the heart.  Your smaller self is not kidding when it tries to tell you there is no unlimited version called a Self, for if you were to truly know and feel this, then the self would be fully incorporated, integrated, and reconciled with that Self and the gig would be up.  No more fears, no more drama, no more doubts.  No doubt about it, you are this Self having an experience of the self in human form.  Just don’t let that self be Self-effacing.