You see death as such a tragedy, when that is because of its effect on those left behind.  Yes, they are gone from your sight, and yes, you no longer have the body to touch, but it is far from a tragedy for those who have passed on.  That is what they have done … passed on to another chapter in the eternal life of the soul.  They are no farther away than your thoughts, and far more real than you think. 

Celebrate this new chapter in their life, for they are in a far more gentle place, a far more peaceful place, enjoying reunions with loved ones and experiences beyond anything you can imagine whilst confined to a physical body.  Things they did not understand whilst in human form are now clear to them, and so they continue learning.  May some of those things be more clear to you now as you adjust to life without them.  May you now also understand that you are here to love and to learn.  

Does not the passing of one you hold dear bring out the love more strongly than anything they may have done in life?  So many of a loved ones faults are swept to the side when they pass as you focus on their loving qualities.  If you could only all learn to do that while here!  But this is the blessing of life — that it provides you so many opportunities to love.  And so, yes, this is the blessing of death, which is nothing but a passage, as important and normal as birth.  Celebrate the life — that part of all of you that continues before, during, and beyond these passage points you call birth and death.  Most of all, celebrate love, for that is what links all of you along this journey with its inevitable passages.