“That’s ridiculous!” you say with indignation, but why is it not ridiculous to the other?  Why is it happening?  Once you realize that diversity and adversity lead to growth, you have created space for growth.  Feel the energy behind “That’s ridiculous!”  Feel the indignation.  Now feeling this, you will recognize it the next time it occurs.  Stop.  There is a lesson here.  Lessons, when looked at, are indeed gifts.  Be present with this present of ridiculous thoughts.