Do you love everyone the same?  Most likely, from a human perspective, if you are honest, the answer is no.  Humans who do not fully integrate the awareness that they are souls in a human body cling out of need to those who love them.  They do not see themselves as fully worthy of love, and so, if one shows them love and affection, they siphon that love for as much as they can receive.  On the surface the relationship may appear to be two way, but it is often one of needing to know they are worthy and loved.  If the source of that human love goes away, such as when the physical body passes, then great suffering ensues.  Often this is due to the subconscious thought, “But who will love me now? Who will give me what I need?”  This kind of passing is a gift in disguise, for it often propels the human to search for answers.  The greatest answer one can find is that you are the love you seek, for you are an eternal soul.  Live life from this awareness of your True Nature, and you will no longer cling to others in such a needy way.  You will love them not because they love you, but because you see the love in them that has always been right there within you.  Namaste.  You are so very loved.