When one rankles you, they are your greatest teacher.  Bless them, and do so with no condescension.  Do you realize how superior you feel as you compare yourself and how lesser you view them?  There is no judgment in this observation from our viewpoint, merely a fact of how the ego works to help you feel separate.  What if you saw the two of you as equals, as lights with no more or less than, no better or worse, simply lights vibrating out of phase?  Light does not rankle.  It merely shines, glows, and shows you where there may still be darkness.  Laugh at the one who rankles you and thank them, for what you are judging is precisely what needs healing in you.