You have identified a bit of human programming that no longer serves you—a habit that appears automatically that is of the human side and not a natural attribute of the soul.  In fact, this habit results in actions that keep you from feeling the attributes of the soul such as peace.  How to clear the habit?  You are most of the way there.  The greatest step is to be aware.

Imagine in your mind a great spotlight.  Shine it now on the thoughts and actions which result from your programming.  Shine the light brightly upon it.  Now, each time such habitual thoughts and actions arise, they will be automatically illuminated and you can offer them to the Light—the greater Light of Spirit—to be dissolved and transmuted.  Awareness is the key.  Shine a light on that which arises from the depths and it can no longer rule you.