How much control do you have?  As much as you want.  The question becomes, how much peace do you
want?  Control is of the ego, peace is of
the spirit.  The two cannot exist well
together.  The more you try to control a
situation or others, the farther you are from a state of peace.  The more at peace you are, the less desire
you have to control anyone or anything. 
Are you afraid of being out of control? 
Fear is also of the ego.  Do you
wish to be a prisoner of ego or a free spirit? 
Why do you feel the need to control? 
For you are focusing on the false you.  
It is that simple.