The more calm you are, the more agitated another becomes.  Or perhaps it is the opposite.  You are agitated, and you think the one you’re with should be as well, yet they are calm.  It is the Law of Balance in action.  Like two test tubes connected and filled with water.  The water will balance out.  Do not argue with what is.  Look beneath the surface for the energetic dynamics at play, and then remember it is all a play of consciousness.  Flow.  Flow up and down, and when that gets to be too exhausting, remain in the center, where all things come into balance.