If you are one who is looking for a mate, wanting to go on a date, what do you do?  You send out signals:  Here I am!  Do you find me attractive?  You radiate a different vibe, an attractor signal.  Understand that if you wish to connect with higher consciousness, which includes those who have passed from your physical reality who no longer have a body, you must do the same thing:  radiate a different signal.  “I am here for you.”  Come and see me, communicate with me if you can.  I AM here.”  And what is this signal you are radiating?  It is light, for sure, but most importantly it is love.  The attractor signal is love, not fear, not any of the lesser vibrations.  How would you hope to get a date by radiating any of the lesser vibrations?  Be the attractor signal which calls to you the highest of beings, the highest of experiences.  Radiate love.  Pulse love.  Just BE, Love.