You have an expression, “Do not waste your breath.” To you this means to try fruitlessly to defend yourself. This is good advice. What purpose does it do to state your case? Does it matter if one is right and another wrong? What if both are right in their own minds? What does “right” mean? You give it meaning and then become stuck in defending that meaning. And what if the meaning should change, as surely it will, for all things change as growth is experienced? And so, the effort spent in defending one’s actions, thoughts, and words served what purpose? To antagonize another? To make another feel better or worse?
Is it your goal to show another how to think? Why do you feel the need to do so? Surrender and allow all to think as they will, including yourself.
You cannot waste a breath, for with each breath you experience and learn. Once again we advise you to step back with compassion for all others as well as yourself, for you are learning through the angst and through the joy. All is in perfect order. Relax and live with joy.