Do you have any idea how powerful love is?  Ask yourself next, do you have any idea how powerful anger is?  Yes, you do.  Have you tried love instead?  The next time you are about to return fire with fire, to speak or write with the same energy that came at you or with its cousin—defensiveness—take a breath and shift from human to soul identification.  From this perspective, respond instead with love and truly feel it.  Truly mean it.  If you are surprised by the result, then you have no idea how powerful love is.