Your expectations cause you angst. You think you know exactly how something should turn out. You place upon a situation and upon other people all of your “shoulds.” And do not others place their “shoulds” upon you as well? What if these “shoulds” should conflict? Then you will surely encounter conflict.
“Too many chiefs and not enough Indians.” One of your humorous phrases, but very wise when you are experiencing conflict. Do you wish to deconflict your life? Set aside your expectations and all of the “shoulds” – even those you place upon yourself. Now relax and let the one Chief guide you. “Thy will be done, oh Wise One” would be an excellent attitude to start with. Then sit back and unwind. Delegation is a wonderful thing, and your Source never minds carrying your burdens for you.