When have you “flown off the handle”?  When have you “lost it”?  Do not steep yourself in those memories now, by all means.  Simply become aware that it happens.  And what is it that happens in these cases?  You become so embroiled in the role you are playing, so completely caught up in the drama, that emotions and their subsequent chemical reactions in the physical body take over, completely masking the real you, the soul, the eternal part of you lying ever so peacefully beneath all of those waves.  These are the extremes we are speaking of here, yet lesser waves, tiny ripples occur every day, as they will, for you are human, after all.  Simply remember that being human is truly a role you as a soul have chosen to play.  Catch yourself.  Do so before you fly off the handle and let your spirit fly, instead.  You are in the pilot’s seat.  It may appear that emotions and chemicals control your life, but only when you, the pilot, allow them to do so.  You are magnificent, beautiful Light, and oh, so very loved.  Have you allowed that Light to shine lately?