It is part of the human makeup to look out for oneself.  Self-preservation is built in.  But so is compassion.  So is caring. Your very essence, your true nature is awareness, so use that awareness to notice when you want another to do something for their own good or for your satisfaction and comfort.  This is a challenging thing to admit.  Of course, you would like that all benefit, but when you can allow others to be as they are and know that you are still loved, why, that is freedom.

You truly are so very loved.