Forged by fire.  This is how you make the strongest of metal.  Does this mean you must suffer?  Only if you believe there is only one reality will you suffer.  You will have your trials and tribulations.  In a world of ups and downs they are inevitable.  The viewpoint you choose is all-important.  Are you a victim?  Yes, at times you will be, but what if you can also at any time take the longer viewpoint, the higher stance of witness, observer, soul?  Practice flexibility of point of view and see how that changes things for you.  Pain goes hand in hand with pleasure in a world of duality.  Peace is ever-present in a multiverse where Pure Awareness rules.  You are so very loved.