It is the human way to focus on the negative.  The human nature is to protect the self and the tribe.  You will look for dangers and threats.  Be aware of this nature and the propensity to ignore the good in favor of the bad.  It can become a habit.  What if every time you noticed a so-called flaw in another or something which rubs you the wrong way, you also seek its opposite?  Ah, balance.  This is the key to peace.  What is good in this situation, this person?  We dare say you will find much to praise as well.  You are all so very loved.