Egos banter back and forth.  What are you defending?  A stance.  A position.  A viewpoint.  Yet, it is not possible for another ego to view any situation exactly the same as you, for you all have different lenses, different filters through which you perceive the world.  The world is temporary.  The ego can remain stuck to its viewpoint of this world or realize that it is an extension, an expression of the soul.  The soul has no stake in the ego’s stance.  The soul will grow either way.  The soul has no need to defend a stance or position.  The soul observes and learns.  Do you feel a need to defend?  That is the ego digging in.  If peace is your goal, you may wish to see through as many lenses as possible at the same time.  Ultimately, there is only one Viewer.