You are given infinite opportunities to BE that which you are:  Love.  We are not speaking of unconditional love, nor are we speaking of conditional love.  Both of those are two poles of one spectrum within your world of opposites.  Rise above the duality and there you find myriad transcendent states much more aligned with the higher self.  Your essential nature is not the conditioned ego which vacillates between unconditional and conditional love.  Your essential nature is Love, pure and simple.  Be that which you are and never fear again.  You are so very loved.