Are you holding them back, your loved ones who have passed, when you think of them so much and ask them to let you know they are around?  In a way, but they understand.  If you are desperately grieving, they will want to comfort you.  It is a choice they make.  When you used to chat, did you not give them a break and allow them to get on with what they wanted or needed to do?  And so it is now.  They will be around.  They will pick up the line when you call.  They see you.  They check in on you.  How would you like them to see you:  miserable or adjusting?  Which view will help them to smile? They are still part of your lives, you know, and always will be.  Trust this and move forward together.  You are so very loved.